You should never be to old or to tired to have some good ole fashioned FUN. Ladies it is very important not to loose yourself after you have a family. I know I know we wear many hats we have to work, cook, clean, business meetings, church, PTA, charity events and fundraisers, take the kids to school as well as cheer, football, dance, soccer, piano lessons and if you are not to tired at the end of the day have a Candy Coated Moment with your man. Needless to say you must stop and repeat after me "Self it is time to spend a moment alone or with friends if you choose to. Go hang with your girls have a spa day at Glen Ivy, or Brunch at Spaghettini's, a bon fire at the beach, a pajama party and rent a nice suite with room service and all, go clubbing if that is your thing, if you want to do it big plan a trip to Miami or Jamaica, or you can have a quiet evening alone just you a candle lit bubble bath a glass of Cabernet with some sweet jazz playing in the background. Regardless what you choose let loose and have some fun. Do not forget to keep yourself sexy as well. When I say sexy I mean your definition of sexy not television or magazine sexy that is not real. Sexy is a feeling an emotion. For example a new nail color, or hairstyle or some jeans that fit just right on your body. No more complaining about your physical appearance Just be who the Most High Created you to be we are all handcrafted and wonderfully made. Now call your sister friends and get to planning. What are you waiting for put the computer down and go; )

Save some money

Just a few tips on how easy it is to save money and use it for more important endeavors.The reason I have dreads is because I got sick and tired of the beauty salon and spending all my money. At the time I was going to Thomas St. Jacques in Beverly Hill getting my hair hooked up. He was a partner with Celebrity Hairstylist Eldon Campbell. After a while we became good friends and I went to his house to get my hair done. Nevertheless it was expensive. I have had dreads for eleven years and I am estimating I have save about eighteen thousand dollars. Yes that is a lot of money. I am not telling you to grow dreads just learn how to do your own hair or go to a beauty college every now and then. Now if you got it like that then blessings to you. I have recently learned how to arch and thread my own eyebrows this saves me about one hundred and seventy five dollars a year. I also do my own manicure and sometimes pedicure. This is a luxury that I love but I can do it myself it need be. Right now we are in a recession gas prices are rising and they are not going to get any lower. Here is how you can save. If you drive to work everyday see if you can carpool or take public transportation. I know what you are thinking but this will save a ton of money. I will not take away you going out to restaurants but I will say if you have take out every single night I will give you one or two options either learn how to cook, if you already know how then turn on your oven. You will feel better and have more money to spend or in your savings. Last but not least if you have cable and Internet cancel your cable. You can watch almost anything on the Internet these days. Now I can go on and on about this subject but I do not want to bore you taking about doing things for yourself. Actually I have put this plan in action for myself and I am so happy that I did. If you would like more tips leave a comment I will be happy to share. Here on the side is a picture of my eyebrows I did them myself. From my heart to yours

Peace Love and lots of Blessings

Face Book Drama

Greetings Lovely Ones Have you or anyone you know ever had Facebook Drama. OMG it seems as though this social network has become the new tool to bully people. I mean seriously banging on facebook. You have baby mama drama, trust issues, people gossiping about others on wall post thinking that no one is going to see it just plain foolishness. First of all if you saw the movie Social Network you would know that Facebook was originally created for people who were in college or graduates of a college so that they could keep in contact with each other. I remember when everybody was on myspace and could not stand facebook now everybody and they grandmother and I do mean this has a profile on this social network.

I personally use facebook as a networking tool, to keep in contact with my family who live in other states, business purposes, and of course to stay well connected with my fellow Generals and my College Buddies. Can I offer a piece of advice want to hear it here it go. People please do not scroll through your significant others friends and call them up asking "Where you know my wife/husband from come on that is so childish ask your husband, wife, boyfriend, girlfriend or whoever that question. Secondly do not threaten people or slander them on facebook because this could lead to some jail time for you. Evidence people don't you know the FBI, CIA, Police DEA and all the other people who are looking for criminals read FACEBOOK looking for people like you. Here is a very important tip Stop Posting What you Smoking. Keep it to yourself because once again you are incriminating yourself. This is the world wide web nothing is private. You think you're getting away with it no. I do not want to hear " I dont understand how I got caught no one ever told me about the way these social networks operate. In conclusion if you have something to say to someone or about someone call them on the phone or write them a letter or even send a personal message don't post it on your wall or their wall that is not fair. If the shoe was on the other foot you would not like it. One more tip I almost forgot please stop with the naked photos of you and especially your children. Did you know that there are petafile networks as well. I know what you're thinking "My facebook is private and no one can download my pictures" well think again they sure can. Have you heard of hacking yes that is what they do. I hope this article was interesting and have fun on Facebook.

From my heart to yours,

Blessings.

The Gift of Time

Greetings Lovely Ones,

Parenting is not an easy task. When you have a child or children it does not come with an instruction manual. Yes of course there are people that you can get advice from but no one has the real answers they only can offer you choices and give you their morals and values. I have three children. It was me and him my son that is for a long time before I decided to have more. I must admit I went back to work when he was only four months old because I did not want to get caught up in the county system like I seen so many others do. I wanted to be able to provide things and offer a hobby to my son. Now that I have two more children and work from home I see a difference in the way the children grew up. This may seem strange but I have more control and I mean this in a good way. My oldest son stayed with my mother. She stopped work for the first five years to help take care of him. Even though he went to pre-school as well as kindergarten I noticed a difference in his behavior and learning pattern verses the younger two that I was afforded the luxury to work from home. I am thankful that I noticed the situation and took action. My oldest did well in school but I see a difference in all three of my children. It just gets better with time. They all have special talents, very intellectual, and I see my son giving the younger two the same advice his dad and I gave him.

By me being a stay at home mom with a career I had more authority and control as far as what my children ate, watched on television, the curriculum they learned, and more interaction. This is important. My goal as a parent is to supply my children with as much knowledge, respect, morality, and value structure as I can. Things are petty. They will not remember the huge birthday party they had at the age of two, the light bright they got at Christmas when they were five, or the Nintendo Wii but you bet your last dollar they will remember the time I spend with them. Walking the dogs, picnics, reading to them a bedtime story, helping with homework, playing jump rope, laying in the bed watching movies on a Sunday morning, or even the lectures and punishments that is what they will remember and hopefully give to their own children someday. This is what I remember most from my childhood. I know in the way this economy is people cannot afford to stay home both parents have to work so if you have a career of a job remember to give your son or daughter a little bit of you.

I did not grow up with both of my parents in the household at the age of five my mom and dad separated but we did have a relationship with my father. I remember playing tennis, boardgames and cards with my mom and taking walks, playing in the park and having long intense talks with my father. I will never forget it. My parents did the best they could with what they had. Embrace all the opportunities you get to spend time with your own children and be thankful. There is no amount of money that can buy back time. Just know if you ever become afraid that you cannot financially provide for your child that new pair of shoes he think he needs, or the new IPad she think she wants you can always give the gift of TIME.

From my Heart to yours

Peace love and lots of blessings

Nikki Minaj Pink Friday CD/Mac Lipstick

I have to admit I did not understand the hype female hip hop artist Nikki Minaj until I saw a live interview she did on the Wendy Williams show yesterday November 17th. She is amazing, articulate and very creative. I had no clue she went the theatrical school as a matter of fact the exact theatrical school that Madonna's daughter attended. Now I understand why she is so animated and over the top. I never try to judge anyone just because I do not like some of the music that is playing on MTV and the radio does not mean I cannot accept the person. I love to witness an extraordinary artist as they bloom like a beautiful orchid and spread their beautiful fragrance amongst the universe. The album is entitled Pink Friday which was suppose to drop tomorrow but was postponed until Monday November 22, 2010. Also the artist has signed on with Mac Cosmetics to launch a beautiful pink lipstick almost the shade as the Lady GaGa that will be available to order online only tomorrow November 19th. This is exclusive and will be available online Fridays only for four weeks. This is why the color is called Pink Friday 4. I believe the lipstick and album were suppose to be released together but you know how record labels are always have to procrastinate and tamper with the flow of things. All in all I must say this young female rapper is not as corny and uneducated as people perceive her to be. My son who is eighteen by the way explained this scenario to me when she first hit the airwaves on youtube. I feel she is adorable, has a great attitude about where she is going in her career. She has a bright future planned for her as long as she continues to stay focused, educated, and a team player. One more quality that I appreciate about this artist is she always pays homage to the female rappers who paved the way for her to enter into an industry that is predominantly male. For those of you who do not know she is the First Lady of Lil Wayne's Label (Young Money) Nikki Minaj the person seems to have a good heart Nikki Minaj the artist is clever and knows how to brand herself which is very imperative in the music business. Blessings to this Pink Power House.

From my heart to yours,

Peace and Blessings

Industry Truther Lauryn Hill's Christian Bass-Player Assassinated 1-12-1...

Nothing is more important than YOU

I have been out of the loop for a few weeks now. I have surely missed writing. A few weeks ago I was running doing my normal exercise routine and began to experience chest pain. Three days prior to this I had a root canal and was under pain medication as well as an antibiotic. Physically I felt fine but obviously I was not. This situation was scary. I will not go into full detail but Later that day I went to the hospital had to stay five days and go through a series of test which were all negative.

I was so terrified my entire life flashed before my eyes. I promised God if he allowed me to make it through I would do more, live each day to the fullest, and not sweat the small stuff. I did not realize there is so much more I want to do, places I want to go and people I would love to meet and help. Immediately while laying in that hospital bed I had to say to myself " Self you are here on an assignment there is someone for you to meet, help or maybe hear what the Most High has to whisper to you because you are so busy".

The hospital is no place to rest it is a place to get treated. If you are not spiritually connected and in sound body and mind you could literally take your last breath at that place. They just want to give you lots of medication instead of finding what the real problem is. Everyone please take care of yourself. What I learned is I come first. Without me how will my children and husband receive proper care. I love my family but for the first time in my life I must listen to my own advice. I am recovering now with a new perspective about what life is. I know we live and we die but I have a lot to do here on earth. Remember this we are all created for his purpose some of us are fortunate enough to actually do what we absolutely love and some of us perform other responsibilities. Just be excited to breath everyday. Each time the sun rises is a new day for you to start over again.

From my heart to yours

Peace and Blessings