Love Yourself

Greetings,
Lately I have been hearing a lot of people talk about finding love like Love is playing hide and seek. I am going to get right to the point with this post. There is an old cliche that goes" You have to give before you can receive." I know what you are thinking but you are wrong my dear. Yes I understand you have a lot of love to give but are you loving yourself first. See what happens is you meet someone you go out have fun, have so many interests in common, great conversation, and you may have a second or tenth date. Suddenly this person does not call you anymore. They will not answer your text, email, or your you tube video (lol).

Here is another scenario you may already be in a relationship probably married yes there are a lot of married unhappy people who are still searching for love in all the wrong places. There is no spice, trust, communication, or romance hardly ever. Beyonce's song "Why don't you love me" is constantly playing in rotation on your iPod.

Word of advice Love Yourself. You cannot expect someone to give you what you will not give to yourself. Real love is free I know from personal experience this is why I am writing about it. Some of you think well I love myself and others may feel well how am I suppose to do that. Not to worry let me share my heart to heart feelings on this subject. First I want you to go look in the mirror a full length mirror if you have one, look into your own eyes and look at every aspect of the physical you. Then find a quiet place and go within. Examine how you feel emotionally. Now I want you to get a notebook, a journal, a piece of paper, or use the notes section of your phone and write down what you see physically wrong with you for example maybe you have an issue with your nose, hair, weight, skin, breast, thighs, feet, attitude whatever the case maybe write it down.

Secondly, I know what you are thinking "Will she say change it" absolutely not I say embrace it. If you can change it without spending a fortune and going under the knife go for it. If not please embrace all of you the good the bad and what you think is ugly. Once you begin to love your total self you will be amazed at how everyone else looks at you and thinks of you. I know from experience. Believe it or not I was once confused too. When I was a teenager I wanted smaller lips because my mom has thin lips. I would stand in the mirror and put my lips together to see how I would look if my lips were like my mothers. No one teased me about my lips it was all in my head. One day I came to the realization of actually looking at my fathers facial features I had his lips. How could I not love something that was a part of not only my father but my DNA.

Recently I have been struggling with my big ole belly. No matter what I do sit ups, crunches, running, I even stopped eating meat and slowed down on my pasta intake nothing works. My fabulous husband had a sit down with me and said Babe you had three kids I love you just the way you are stop complaining. Now that made a difference but somehow I continued to feel disgusted with the fat belly because I had to embrace this issue I had to conquer the beast(fat belly) I went to the doctor and found that whenever you have a tubular ligation this can happen.

In closing the last point I want to make is make yourself a vision board or a goal poster. Include all the insecurities you have physically as well as mentally. Begin to work on yourself by focusing on what you wrote down. I want you to start from the inside out. Work on your emotions, attitude and temperament then begin to change the physical if you see something wrong after your journey within. Marinate on this time and time again people get all kinds of surgeries thinking they will be desired more or feel better afterward and sometimes that works but most cases it does not. This is because they do not love the inside. You have to fall in love with your own spirit.

From my heart to yours

108locs